Every aspect of the Red Hat Society has its roots in one essential: friendship. The other things we value most – fun, freedom, and fulfillment – owe much of their achievement to one’s friends. Of course it’s easy to see why friends are indispensable when one wants to go do something fun; we all know that everything goes better with someone special with whom to share it. Freedom and fulfillment, while more dependent on individual effort, still owe much to underlying friendships. It is our friends who encourage and support us, listen to us, reassure us when we doubt ourselves, and cheer us on as we strive to reach our goals. Given all this, it’s no surprise that we all value our friends.
But do we put as much effort into being a friend as we do into enjoying
the friendship of others (maybe even taking it for granted)? It’s been
said that “the best way to keep friendships from breaking is not to drop them.”
I’ve been thinking about that lately. I don’t ever want to lose a
friend because I have been too busy to keep in touch, or too self-absorbed to
pay attention to what she may be going through lately, perhaps missing a chance
to be of help. Staying in touch doesn’t necessarily involve a large investment
of time; it can be as simple as a quick email (or tweet), a brief phone call,
or even a note to let her know you’re thinking about her. Being a friend
does take a bit of effort. But surely anyone who matters to you deserves
frequent attention and plenty of support. If you doubt that, try
reversing the situation in your mind.
I think it comes down to this: “Do unto others as you would have them do
unto you.” You can’t find better advice about friendship.
In friendship, Sue Ellen Cooper, Founder and Exalted Queen Mother of The Red Hat Society
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