Thursday, August 24, 2017


I’d say that many Red Hatters are just naturally good at friendship. Maybe there are some, here and there, who learned a bit more about friendship after becoming Hatters. In any case, taken as a group, I think we’re friendship experts.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one." So simple! But, like most simple ideas, it’s also very profound.

Friendship is not something we reach out and grab; it’s not something we can just demand and receive. In order to make a new friend, we must first relate to the new acquaintance as an already-established friend would do.

A friendship has to be constructed from a series of interactions. That’s one of the reasons we advocate gathering with great regularity with your friends; just being together often, over time leads to sharing lives, confidences, shared laughter and pain. It is built incrementally. What starts as acquaintance slowly becomes something more. You may not even notice that something is gradually developing and building.

"Yard by yard, it’s very hard. But inch by inch, it’s a cinch." - Anon

Then, when the not so good times come....

"But every road is rough to me that has no friend to cheer it." - Elizabeth Shane

In friendship
Sue Ellen Cooper, Founder and Exalted Queen Mother of The Red Hat Society

For more information on Sue Ellen Cooper click here.

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