Tuesday, August 30, 2016

FAITH, TRUST, HOPE, CONFIDENCE, LOVE AND ATTITUDE

Everything ever written about relationships stresses the primary importance of good communication. When trying to build a close connection with another person, you must find a way to effectively communicate your feelings, thoughts and ideas to her. Open exchanges of thoughts, accompanied by sincere efforts to understand each other result in excellent communication. If this kind of exchange doesn’t take place there will be a lot of space for misunderstandings to occur. Often you won’t even know if you got your point across at all, and this can be extremely frustrating. When an understanding gulf becomes obvious it becomes necessary to search for other words or illustrations in order to try again. You just won’t feel as connected as you were hoping you would.

Over the years, I have come to believe that the premier method of ensuring good communication is through using word pictures or short illustrations, employing common life experiences as examples. You can really drive home a point when you’re able to give a good illustration or example - and you are often able to do it very succinctly. When you can tell that the other person “gets it” that shared understanding is the beginning of communication. I came across the following “Six Tiny Stories” on the internet; they explain some deep concepts very well – and in very few words:

Once all villagers decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer, all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella. That’s FAITH.

When you throw a baby in the air, she laughs, because she knows you will catch her. That’s TRUST.

Every night we go to bed, without any assurance of being alive the next morning, but still we set the alarm to wake up. That’s HOPE.

We plan big things for tomorrow in spite of zero knowledge of the future. That’s CONFIDENCE.

We see the world suffering, but still we get married and have children. That’s LOVE.

On an old man’s shirt was written a sentence, “I am not 90 years old...I am sweet 16 with 74 years’ experience. That’s ATTITUDE.

The anonymous person who wrote these little stories has managed to communicate succinctly and clearly, their definition of faith, trust, hope, confidence, love and attitude. I think anyone who reads them will “get it!”

In friendship,




















Sue Ellen, Exalted Queen Mother

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Thursday, August 25, 2016

Guest Blog- Lady Gayle of The Tea House Times - Red Hat Socie-TEA Break

Dear Red Hat Society Members,

If you missed my first post, please find it here: Help Us Form a Socie-TEA!! I’m guest blogging here once every two months and look forward to connecting with you as we sit back and enjoy a little tea break together.

Knowing that Red Hat Society members are having fun all around the world, it is exciting to note that August 8-14, 2016 was Afternoon Tea Week in UK! It was their Sixth celebratory week to focus entirely on afternoon tea. What could possibly be more exciting than that? I sure wish I were in London while this was happening. From picnic teas to sophisticated afternoon tea in elegant hotels and awards, special events, and other excitement, it must have been a blast. If you are were able to enjoy any part of it, pop me an email. I’d love to hear all about it! –Or- Tell me what you love about tea, the beverage (hot or iced), or how you feel about getting together with friends over afternoon tea. Hopefully, you may place a comment below this blog post as well. 

In honor of Afternoon Tea Week, let’s go over a few more tea tips I had shared during the RHS Virtual Mad Hatter’s Tea Party held on Facebook in March, 2015:

AFTERNOON TEA POPULARIZED BY THE BRITISH
Anna Maria Stanhope (Russell), Duchess of Bedford (1783-1857) is said to have experienced a “sinking feeling” in the afternoons while awaiting the late evening mealtime, so she ordered her servants to bring snacks of small cakes, biscuits and bread with butter accompanied by tea. – Anna was a life-long friend of Queen Victoria and between 1841 and 1847 served as a Lady of the Bedchamber and introduced Afternoon Tea to the Queen. 


AFTERNOON TEA BECAME VERY POPULAR DURING QUEEN VICTORIA’S REIGN Afternoon Tea became very popular in England during Queen Victoria’s Reign of 63 years (1837-1901).

 


HIGH TEA VS LOW TEA (Afternoon Tea)
Traditionally, a low tea, also referred to as afternoon tea, is taken at a low table such as a sofa table in the parlor – at the typical hour of tea time 3-5 pm.  Low Tea or Afternoon Tea includes finger sandwiches, scones, sweets, and tea. High Tea is actually more of a supper time meal, taken at a high table but also includes tea.

Until next time, enjoy your tea and help me form a SocieTea of good friends and companions across the globe that enjoy making tea a part of a healthy, fun and friendly lifestyle. Be sure to check your Friday Broadcast email once every two months where all members receive a free digital copy of the most recent issue of The Tea House Times publication!

Gail Gastelu (aka Lady Gayle to my Red Hat friends), owner/publisher of The Tea House Times

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Tuesday, August 23, 2016

A FIT HATTER IS A HEALTHY HAPPY HATTER



Greetings RHS Blogsters,

Queen/Ambassador Sunny Mathews, here. I am Queen of a local lunch-bunch chapter, The Glitterati, in Jacksonville, FL USA, and I do enjoy getting together with my Chapterettes each month. However, for many years, I felt I was missing something. I needed to connect with Hatters who share my values when it comes to fitness. When I asked Hatquarters if I could be Queen of two chapters, there was a resounding YES! Starting a spin-off Chapter and using social media as my meeting ground was the ticket. Thus, Fit ‘n Fabulous was born. Members of Fit ‘n Fabulous meet and greet in a private Facebook group. As administrator of the group site, I make sure all members are RHS Supporting Members.

Chartering Fit ‘n Fabulous was my way of moving fitness up the ranks in the mission statement of the RHS. Fun, friendship, fulfillment and freedom all fall into place when fitness comes first. Fit ‘n Fabulous was one of the first virtual, spin-off Chapters of the RHS. Who knew that connecting via Facebook would bond a group of Members interested in fitness. In 2012, there were 33 members from 18 states, Germany and Canada. Today, we are a group of over 400 members from almost every state and have added Japan and Australia to our international list. Members are finding the Facebook link to request to join the group in the Friday Broadcast and on the QMB forum, Fitness, Wellness Tips.

Fit ‘n Fabulous Pink and Red hatters make health and exercise a priority in their lives. The focus isn’t just on losing weight, though the pounds melting away is certainly a bonus. The focus is on being active and participating in life-supporting activities. The goal is to maintain functionality – being able to lift, push, pull, bend, sit, stand, reach, and balance with confidence and strength. I often say: “A fit Hatter is a healthy happy Hatter.”

Each morning, I post an Exercise of the Day, courtesy of SparkPeople.com, to give Members ideas for exercises and stretches they can do at home or at a gym. The Members also post fun and interesting ideas from other sources. Every so often, we engage in Fitness Challenges. Once we did a 30-day Fiber-challenge. We learned how to incorporate more fiber in our diet. We also did a very challenging Plank-challenge where we increased our plank holds in a variety of positions. One of our Canadian members led us through a couple of fun Beach-Body challenges. The Members give each other lots of encouragement and kudos for all their accomplishments … no matter how big or small. The Fit ‘n Fabulous girls participate in a wide range of activities: dancing (clogging and Zumba), water aerobics, tai chi, yoga, bicycling, running. Some workout in a gym and others take classes; some use exercise DVDs at home. Many share pictures from their walks. It’s as if we are walking together in such beautiful settings from around the world. The bottom line is everyone of us is Staying Active Every Day!


Check us out at www.facebook.com/groups/RHSfit.fabulous. If you have the desire, dedication and determination to put more activity in your daily life, then request to join Fit ‘n Fabulous. You will be glad that you did!

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Thursday, August 18, 2016

There was a time in Recent history where dessert was not given its proper due and the world politely waited for their dessert - understanding that it was supposed to be done AFTER the meal!  It was a dull and dreary time in history until the women of The Red Hat Society came along!  There trail blazers lived for the joy in all aspects of life!  They knew the symbolism behind eating their dessert first.  Although the dessert was tasty, EATING DESSERT FIRST MEANT THAT THEY WERE LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST AND NOT WAITING TO ENJOY THE FUN IT HAD TO OFFER!



The merry band of Sisters vowed that they would never stop spreading the joy of Fun, Friendship, Freedom, Fulfillment and Fitness with women everywhere.  And thus, as a salute to their belief in the enjoyment of life they would rise and shout "Remember the a la mode!" and proudly partake of their favorite dessert.

At the International convention being held in San Antonio, Texas, we'll pay tribute to these Sisters and proudly eat our dessert first at each gathering.

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Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Queen Mary's Royal Transformation - Member Stories



In the Sisterhood we like to think there is a bit of magic in every hat that we place on our heads.  It's our ticket to enter a world of fun and friendship and play to our heart's content.  For some women, the simple act of wearing a hat transforms them from an everyday person, to something more than they ever imagined.

Queen Mother Mary of the Royal Razzle Dazzlers Chapter (Illinois, United States) has been Hatting for 10 years, and she is passionate about the Sisterhood.  "I don't know what I'd do without it," Queen Mary said.  "It has been the highlight of my 80 years of living!"

Mary discovered the Society through her daughter, Linda, who had joined a local Chapter in another state and told her that she thought it was something she should look into.  Mary then came across an article in the newspaper about a chapter in her hometown, and when she saw the vibrant red and purple regalia worn by the Members, she knew it was going to be a perfect fit for her.  "I love the color purple," Mary said.  From clothes to bed sheets and curtains, to a car, if Mary could own it in purple, she did!  "Some people even call me the Purple Lady," Mary added.  All she really needed was the hat to complete her regalia.

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Thursday, August 11, 2016

Sue's Corner - Red Hats on the Go

Dear Hatters,
Any time I read or hear about a person who embodies admirable values or performs admirable acts, I am apt to think, “I wish I could be like that.” Why do I put it that way? Why don’t I say to myself, “I am going to be more like that?” I think I can answer my own question: It’s going to take a good bit of effort on my part to become like my role model...and I’m lazy. I’m also not the strongest, most focused person.
I am talking, here, about my desire to become a better, less self-absorbed person, reaching higher – not so much about getting help to eliminate negative behaviors. If I want to improve myself, I am going to have to look around for all the available help I can find. And the first things I can find, right at my side, are my friends. If I really want to grow and change I can share my goals honestly with them and ask them for their help in holding me accountable when I fall short of my best effort. Of course they aren’t going to really do that unless I make it very clear that I am totally serious in my request, and that I won’t get angry at them if they do that very thing.
In some cases, people may need a slightly different kind of help in order to eliminate negative behavior, before they can reach for a better self. There have been a few people in my life who have suffered from addictions. I know, from having exposure to their programs, that these people have to have others in their lives who are close enough and who care enough about them to literally hold their feet to the fire when they try to make excuses for slipping back into behaviors they are struggling to abandon. These true friends have to care enough to risk angry backlash from the very people they are trying to help. This is the place where the rubber hits the road in the quest for true, deep friendship.
We Hatters are not spring chickens, I know. But we aren’t finished with ourselves yet; we can still aspire to being better people and accomplishing better things in this life. Perhaps we don’t have serious addictions or enormous shortcomings, but we may be aware of other (perhaps relatively minor) qualities in ourselves that we would like to get past. We may realize that we are letting ourselves down by not following through on cherished goals because we are afraid to fail. We may sense ourselves drawing inward from life experiences or retreating from challenges as we grow older. If we are vigilant – and honest with ourselves – we may have to admit that we would prefer to just coast on into old age without growing or changing. There is a Biblical that says: “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
If any of us, for any reason, senses that they need to make a change of any kind, they can almost certainly find their other piece of iron right within their Chapter. This is the kind of thing that true Sisterhood embodies. And, as we Red Hatters have been saying for years, “We are not dead and we are not done!”
In friendship,
Sue Ellen, Exalted Queen Mother

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Tuesday, August 9, 2016

6 Tips for Better Public Speaking

1. Breathe! The air in your body must go from your lower belly into your
lungs past your vocal folds into the middle of your head for complete
circulation and energy.

2. Keep your ribs up. For maximum power, keep your ribs up and
expanded. Don't allow your ribs and chest to collapse during exhalation
(they will want to).

3. Think of forward motion. When you open your mouth imagine sound, air,
energy, and your unique message going out into the world.

4. Keep your feet slightly apart for grounding and proper balance.

5. Do stretches and warm-ups for face, body and voice before speaking.

6. Ideally before speaking walk briskly with arms swinging freely for a few
minutes. This allows energy to flow more evenly throughout your body and
quiets any butterflies or self-consciousness.

By Dr. Miluna Fausch, HHCP, Ph.D., Public Speaking, LinkedIn


Relax…. Your Sisters will love hearing you!


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