Tuesday, August 30, 2016


Everything ever written about relationships stresses the primary importance of good communication. When trying to build a close connection with another person, you must find a way to effectively communicate your feelings, thoughts and ideas to her. Open exchanges of thoughts, accompanied by sincere efforts to understand each other result in excellent communication. If this kind of exchange doesn’t take place there will be a lot of space for misunderstandings to occur. Often you won’t even know if you got your point across at all, and this can be extremely frustrating. When an understanding gulf becomes obvious it becomes necessary to search for other words or illustrations in order to try again. You just won’t feel as connected as you were hoping you would.

Over the years, I have come to believe that the premier method of ensuring good communication is through using word pictures or short illustrations, employing common life experiences as examples. You can really drive home a point when you’re able to give a good illustration or example - and you are often able to do it very succinctly. When you can tell that the other person “gets it” that shared understanding is the beginning of communication. I came across the following “Six Tiny Stories” on the internet; they explain some deep concepts very well – and in very few words:

Once all villagers decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer, all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella. That’s FAITH.

When you throw a baby in the air, she laughs, because she knows you will catch her. That’s TRUST.

Every night we go to bed, without any assurance of being alive the next morning, but still we set the alarm to wake up. That’s HOPE.

We plan big things for tomorrow in spite of zero knowledge of the future. That’s CONFIDENCE.

We see the world suffering, but still we get married and have children. That’s LOVE.

On an old man’s shirt was written a sentence, “I am not 90 years old...I am sweet 16 with 74 years’ experience. That’s ATTITUDE.

The anonymous person who wrote these little stories has managed to communicate succinctly and clearly, their definition of faith, trust, hope, confidence, love and attitude. I think anyone who reads them will “get it!”

In friendship,

Sue Ellen, Exalted Queen Mother

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