Thursday, October 26, 2017

Cut Out Stress!!

Seven Tips to Cut Out Stress:

1. Focus on your breath - "Breath focused attention" lowers activity in the brain's fear and anxiety center. Practiced regularly and you'll have fewer negative emotional experiences overall. For five minutes, focus on the feeling of air passing the outside edge of your nostrils. Don't have to breathe deeply or consciously slow down your breath, just focus on the sensation.

 2. Identify the cause - Ask yourself: What is the source of my feelings? Do they stem from something you are dealing with at the moment or a different issue? Focus only on what is right before you.

 3. Don't ruminate - Playing the "what if" game is a clear sign you are ruminating. Take a pause, ask yourself what step you can take. Are you worried about a loved one? Plan some quality time with them. Upset about a natural disaster or political issue? Make a donation. You'll feel better because you've taken control of your thoughts and dome something however small to the make the situation better.

 4. Put down your phone - social media can produce the same gawker effect as a car accident on the highway. If you can't tear your eyes away from the "carnage" on Twitter or Facebook, then set a time limit for your social media.

5. Visualize your anxiety - Focus intently for a moment on your worry and give it a rating on a scale one-to-10. Picture where the fear is in your body - chest, throat, stomach? Imagine your fear as an object, like a fiery red ball. Then, imagine the color of the ball changing. Make it pink or pale blue. Visualize it changing size. So small, that a breeze carries it away.

 6. Say it out loud - When our voice is trapped in our mind, we start to believe it is true. Speaking it out loud helps you realize how you speak to yourself and identify thoughts that may sound ridiculous when verbalized.

7. Tap - This may sound hokey, but try it! Start by labeling your emotion as specifically as you can -- ie "I am worried my partner is irritated with me" then rate it on a one-10 scale. Take two fingers and tap gently on the top of your head while saying your worry slowly, out loud several times. Repeat this by tapping down the side of your body, the inside of your eyebrow, under your eye, your chin, your collarbone and the side of your torso. After you finish, rate the strength of your feeling. Repeat as needed until you get to one.

Compliments of Ambassador Queen Sunny Mathews, Florida.  Highlights from "Seven Tips from the Experts to Cut Down Stress" Wall Street Journal, Tuesday, October 24, 2017

Wednesday, October 11, 2017


Getting older is inevitable, but feeling older? That’s a different story. On average, people older than 70 feel 13 years younger than they really are, according to a study published in the Journal of Gerontology: Psychological Sciences.

Among study participants who were particularly healthy and active, the gap between subjective age and actual age was even wider. But beyond health status—which probably doesn’t surprise you—what other factors can influence our perceived age?

1. Hang Out with Older and Younger Crowds Feeling younger starts with seeking out people who are at least a decade your senior—who will expose you to new health behaviors, attitudes, and wisdom—and young children and teenagers, who will remind you what it’s like to see the world through innocent eyes, says Katie Rickel, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist based in Durham, North Carolina. “When we find ourselves only spending time with our peers, we often grow accustomed to the same activities, beliefs, interests, and culture of a single generation.”

2. Embrace Newness and Change Traveling, ballroom dancing, painting, and volunteering ... Never say no to (almost) anything. Experts agree it’s a good motto. When we learn a new activity or change up our routine, our brains need to rewire themselves to assimilate the novelty, New synapses—which neurons use to communicate with one another—form and learn to fire in different patterns, she says. This phenomenon helps promote brain health and rejuvenation. Even small, seemingly unimportant changes, such as driving a different route to the supermarket or reorganizing the cabinets in your kitchen, can make a difference.

3. Never Consider Yourself Old Your mindset really does matter.

4. Move as Much as You Can Exercise is essentially equal to Ponce De Leon’s fountain of youth,” says Shanna Levine, M.D., an internist at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City. “Whether it’s walking, running, swimming, biking, or dancing, physical activity is key.” Any amount of activity counts, Levine says. Walk around the block, or start a dance party with your grandchildren—it will keep you looking and feeling your best.

5. What Makes You Laugh? Do More of That Surround yourself with people who like to laugh a lot—and stay away from “drama-prone individuals.” While more research is needed on the value of avoiding drama, there’s proof on the health benefits of laughter. Studies have linked laughter to everything from lower stress levels to stronger immunity to a more active social life.

6. Engage in social activities,” says Levine, adding that keeping your mind active and engaged has been shown to slow aging. Pick whatever makes you happy, from attending a group fitness class to a picnic in the park with your family. The type of activity doesn’t matter as much as simply having something on your schedule, Levine says. Start by making plans with your family and friends. You can also look for opportunities to connect at your community center or church, or with Members of the Red Hat Society!                   
 Compliments of Sunny Mathews from Do Something Simply Because It’s Fun Highlights from SilverSneakers e-newsletter, September 12, 2017


Thursday, October 5, 2017


21st Century Etiquette:  Why Silence Is Golden 

Thumper, from Disney’s Bambi, really said it best when he stated, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!” 
In today’s modern world, sharing how you feel and what you think about any subject is encouraged.  Your Facebook feed seems to lure you with a statement within your own post window, “What’s on your mind?”  In person, we take time to mentally pull our thoughts together ensuring that what we say will be received well.  Online, we have a tendency to be a bit bolder—in many cases, sharing before we think!   
With these new and online platforms comes a responsibility to mentally “check ourselves” before we share our thoughts.  As Members of The Red Hat Society, we know we are “inclusive” and not “exclusive.”  All are invited to play on our playground and with that comes the responsibility to allow others to play in their own fashion, have their own perspectives and find who they are within our world.  Just because you don’t agree with one Sister’s viewpoint or position on a subject doesn’t mean that we won’t love playing with her in person.   At each of our cores is a desire to live a joy filled life.  Let’s give one another a chance online and remember Thumper’s sound advice!   

by Emily Yost, Marketing Director, Red Hat Society